Okay, guys, I know this sounds boring, but it is SO SO SO VERY IMPORTANT for leaders to understand WE DO THIS!
How do you handle the stage and even stages of STORMING in your groups, teams, culture and even in your own life?
I forgot to share this in the video but in the Stages of Storming as we get to know everyone in our groups, team, and organizations better we feel freer to push for what we feel we want and what we think is best not just for the group but more often then not what we feel is best for ourselves. We do this predominantly in three areas (note for space I am again sampling these)
Relationally - We push for what we want relationally in our groups and teams. We want to spend more time with some people and less time with others. We want to work with some people and don't want to work with others. So we make our case and go about implementing our systems of control (these are systems we have learnt to get what we want - passive, Passive aggressive, or aggressive). But everyone in the group begins to do the same. Conflict grows.
Benefit or Reward - We begin to push for what we want out of the group and what we want from completing or doing our part in the group. Again, as we know the group better, we feel we are more and more justified to get the benefits or rewards we desire, and as the group gets to know each other better and better, everyone in the group begins pushing for their expected, often more significant, benefit or reward. Conflict grows.
Group Status - We begin to push for the status and recognition in the group we want. Some push for leadership or to be second in command while others push for simply showing up and not having to do any of the work. But all begin to push for the status level and position we desire in the group. Conflict grows
The video below is a little long, but realize I am just so very briefly talking about these three huge topics. So yes, I am simplifying, but I pray you can catch what I am saying, and it impacts how you lead your groups in a significant way. Specifically, you guard against your nature to scapegoat, and you lead your teams and groups toward loving and showing grace to the truthsayer rather than ignorantly scapegoating them. If we are to lead like Christ, we stand against our natural bet towards this and, in Jesus Christ, aim to be open to hearing the truth and to speak the truth in love.
The files at the bottom are the paper I did on this subject, one in Word, the other is a PDF. I'm a poor writer, so it's not the most riveting read, but it is so important we understand this stuff.
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